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Violence and Victimization: Stereotypes of Dangerous Men
Are male survivors of abuse more likely to become violent themselves? Author’s note: This article was written and edited before the tragic incidents in Kansas City this past weekend. While I do not...
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Do You Want a Future?
It wasn’t until David Pittman went back to his past and acknowledged the childhood sexual abuse that he endured, that he that he began to work through the painful issues in his adult life. - Truth is...
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Domestic Violence Campaign Seeks Letters
A writing campaign asks domestic violence survivors and their supporters to submit letters From Lexie Bean, Founder and Creative Director of Attention: People with Body Parts: With the perception that...
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The Special Gifts I Threw Away
As a survivor of abuse, Eirik Rogers spent many years suspicious of the kindness of others. - It happened at my junior high school’s weekend Spring Recital. The event was a series of student solo...
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Forgiving a Father, Reclaiming a Self
How do you forgive an abusive father? Kim Cottrell shares how she learned how to stop living in secret and pretending everything was okay. - “This isn’t going to work.” I whispered, tears flooding my...
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Mending Fences: On Restoring Boundaries After Abuse
It can be difficult to maintain safe boundaries while on the path of healing. Here are a few insights from Peter Pollard of 1in6.org. — I’ve always been intrigued by the different choices people make,...
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From Hurt To Healing – Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Brave stories from three men who were assaulted and abused, physically, verbally, and sexually. This will change what you think about sexual assault and abuse. — Here are the brave, heart-wrenching...
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The Emotional Pain Body, Part 2
In a previous article, I talked about the emotional pain body. Now let’s talk about how to deal with the painbody in our lives. But first… ––– There are many ways we typically react to the painbody...
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Conjuring Hope in a Storm
Living in New England in mid-winter, it’s necessary to learn to conjure up a sense of hope, even with the snow piling up outside the window. ––– It always helps to remind myself, Spring is just around...
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I’m Angry A Lot
Focusing on anger to find peace ––– I met him at a writers’ conference and he showed me a book he had written. The writing wasn’t bad, but I paused from my reading to ask, “Why are you so enraged? You...
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Men Are Victims Too: Recognizing and Dealing With Abuse
Abuse comes in many forms. Especially abuse that men often don’t recognize. ___ Many men have selective memories. Most men, like myself, are unaware that they are, or have been, abused. Many men have...
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“I Just Need to Tell Someone”
Making space for men to talk about sexual abuse ––– As we’re winding down April, Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I can’t help but think of the many inspiring messages we receive over the course of the...
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Carrying the Weight
Learning to let go to find healing ––– “Hope you’re well. I’m having some anxiety this morning so I thought I’d reach out to a friend. No specific questions – just looking for some support I guess.” I...
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We Lost a Warrior for Survivors
“The beauty of survivors is their capacity to show empathy and sympathy as they heal in a safe holistically sustainable group of mentors/family. They are our treasures.” – Alexander Villarreal ––– I...
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Confronting Stigma and Stereotypes Around the World
Helping men heal ––– Although I and my colleagues Gary Foster from Living Well, in Australia and Rick Goodwin, from 1in6 Canada have together logged more than half a century working to help men heal...
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It Happens to Boys
Creating safe places to talk about childhood sexual abuse ––– Speaking about sexual abuse is not a popular subject matter: some people cringe when I ask if we can speak to their organization. A group...
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Don’t Forgive!
When You’re Hurt, Feel It! ––– Aren’t we survivors constantly bombarded with the suggestion (or demand), “You need to forgive”? Don’t we hear that message proclaimed among therapists, preachers,...
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6 Things Men Can Do After They Discover They Are in an Abusive Relationship
Men are often the victims in abusive relationships. Jordan Kozey explains what to do when you get out. ___ This article is a follow up to my previous piece, dubbed Men Are Victims Too: Recognizing and...
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Speaking Truth to Shame
View image | gettyimages.com Men Choosing to Suffer in Silence No Longer ––– “…I guess, start at the beginning…” That’s how the recently-premiered Bristlecone video starts, and what a moving and...
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Men Need Partners in Healing
Embed from Getty Images They need to believe life will improve. ––– My wife, Shonna Milliken Humphrey, has been an intimate witness to my struggle with the legacy of my childhood sexual abuse, and a...
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